Lesson 16: Lovingly Abandoned to Jesus

A heart that welcomes Jesus’ leadership is the best thing the Spirit works in us. We then serve others for Jesus’ sake, not just for our own sake or even primarily for the people’s sake.

7:6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights!
Her loyal heart of abandoned love thrills Him. Her resolve to do His will, no matter what it costs her, fills her Bridegroom with delight and affection. He is completely captivated by His submissive, spiritually mature bride. Her love captures the King!

There are no more foxes to spoil the vines, no hidden compromise, and no unwillingness to arise when He calls her. She is as devoted to Him as He is to the Father.

He observes every detail concerning her and us also. He really loves every little thing about us when we simply say, “Take it all,” and mean it. Now we completely belong to Him—our job, desires, mind, future, children, spouse—everything!

May He gaze upon each detail of our lives and say, “How beautiful! How beautiful!”
Selah: What are three reasons our dedication to Jesus gives Him great joy?

7:7 Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
7:8 I said, “I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of its branches.” Let now your breasts be like clusters of the vine, The fragrance of your breath like apples, And the roof of your mouth like the best wine. (NKJV)

Her stature speaks of her maturity. Her attentiveness to Him has made her like the palm tree, the emblem of fruitfulness. The date palm was highly prized in biblical times, and the fruit was valued more highly than bread because of its sustaining power. One tree could yield up to 200 pounds of dates in a year, and its fruit bearing power increased rather than decreased with age.

The more a palm tree is oppressed, the more it flourishes. It will not be pressed or bound down or grow crooked even if heavy weights are laid on it. He had never described her this way before!

“The righteous will flourish like a palm tree...They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green” (Psalm 92: 12, 14).

He says he will take hold of its fruit. Her service would be primarily for Him—even loving and caring for others. In the Old Testament tabernacle, the bread was offered to God for the first six days. After that, the priests could eat it. When Jesus arose from the dead, He told Mary Magdalene that He must first ascend to His Father. His death on the cross was first of all for Him. All we do is first of all for Him and His pleasure.

Then He tells her three aspects of the ministry she will have. First, He promises that she will nurture others. Through her faith and love others will be cherished and spiritually matured.

Breasts are mentioned eight times in the Song of Songs. Here, for the first time, they are likened to clusters of fruit. When we are totally His, we more easily abide in Him, and believe His promises so that we produce much fruit. He sees in her much fruit (John 15:5) as a result of her faith and love.

Second, through her the Holy Spirit will be released. In 2:3 she said, “With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” Here we discover the outcome of that communion. The apples she ate perfumed her breath, and now her life is permeated with the fragrance of His life. She is filled with the Holy Spirit whose name means “wind” or “breath” in the Hebrew, so the words she said had the fragrance of the anointing of the Spirit upon them.
Third, through it all, she will maintain her intimacy with Him. In the next verse, she speaks of her enthusiasm for what He has chosen for her.
Selah: When you do any act of kindness, offer it to Him first. When you do, He will receive it as though you did it just for Him. What kindness can you do for Him today?

7:9  “The wine goes down smoothly for my beloved” (NKJV).
In love’s poetic language, the statement that the wine goes down smoothly refers to her living in instantaneous agreement with the Holy Spirit’s leadership. It goes down smoothly because she receives it without resistance drinking the cup of God’s will without hindrance. “I delight to do Your will, O my God, and Your law is within my heart” (Psalm 40:8). No matter what happens, the spiritually mature can say, “The wine goes down smoothly because my Beloved loves me and I love Him.”

“The wine goes down smoothly” is a phrase you can use when things come into your life that you might naturally resist. Because you love Jesus so much and want to please Him, your most loving response is, “The wine goes down smoothly. I say ‘yes’ to Your leadership and to what You allow.”

She says, “May the wine...” She desires more than anything else to have a life that will never resist the Spirit. A heart that welcomes His leadership is the best thing the Spirit works in us.

Still, delighting to do the will of God has a decision aspect to it. The more we choose to live in agreement with the Holy Spirit, the more He pours His love for Jesus into our hearts. The more we grieve Him by what we do with our eyes, speech, time, or money, the less we will love Jesus.

Wine is a symbol of joy. Not only does God bring us joy, but also we bring God joy. Jesus’ most pleasurable thing outside of the Godhead is His love relationship with His Bride.

Everything God does in a human heart is to glorify and satisfy Jesus. With bridal love in our hearts, we are able to love Jesus as He deserves to be loved. When we resist the Spirit, we are robbing Jesus of joy.
Selah: To what difficult situation can you apply these sentences? “I receive His will regarding _____________ because I love Jesus and find my joy in pleasing Him. The wine goes down smoothly.”

7:10 I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.
Her Lover is overwhelmed with her beauty. He praises her qualities that describe her spiritual maturity. When He finishes, she gives Him the sweetest words a surrendered heart can say, “I belong to Him and His desire is for me.”

This verse is the confession Jesus waits to hear from each of our hearts. His heart is moved when we say, “I belong to my Lover, and He desires me and I am committed to Him.” The Message

“I belong to my lover.” What she does is for Him. If others in the vineyard don’t notice or appreciate what she did, that’s insignificant. All she does is for Him.

“His desire is for me.” Truly believing this truth—His desire is to do me good at all times in all ways—is the key to the walk of faith. It is also the underlying reason she can say, “His wine goes down smoothly.” By living with this confidence, we can live the surrendered life consistently.

Being completely sure of His heart toward us changes us. We discover it is possible to give thanks in every kind of circumstance. Why? Because we know that even in the “bad” He is leading us through it, giving us strength, supplying every need, and always having a way to bring good out of all things(Philippians 4:4-6; 1 Thessalonians 5:18; Romans 8:28).

The Bride truly trusts His promises because she has deep insight into Jesus’ affection and enjoyment of her. The most prominent theme in the Song is the revelation of God’s desire for us. This revelation will powerfully change us. God’s love for us and our love for Him become our primary motivation for obedience and diligence (Song 4:9; 6:4-5; 7:6-10). Insight into God’s desire gives us spiritual and emotional security.

His heart is deeply moved by our steady love for Him. He even writes in His book about our tears (Psalm 56:8) and about our conversations about Him (Malachi 3:16). His thoughts about each of us cannot be numbered: He has engraved our names on the palms of His hands (Psalm 139:17-18; Isaiah 49:16). Even when we have forgotten about Him, His desires and longings are for us.

Selah: Can you say with confidence, “I am absolutely convinced in my spirit that no matter what happens He has a good plan for me”?

Whenever you feel rejected by others or in difficult circumstances, try saying these words: “His desire is for me.” What would be the impact of living with the reality of those words?